Have you ever felt pleasant and then someone comes to you and emotionally dumps (whether to confide in you or to blame you). I’m sure this happens a lot in working environments. Its hard to develop boundaries because there are various dynamics that go on like: boss/employee, customer/worker, coworker/different working styles etc…. At least for me it can be hard to protect my happy space and still be a supportive team member. But I’m learning that if someone emotionally dumps you don’t have to be reactionary, meaning… Its not your fault, you aren’t being blamed and it probably not your problem too. Find out what you can do and only address that. But don’t be fooled, if someone is addressing you in an uncomfortable manor you have to make sure you are handling things well internally too.
I have to take care of myself meaning I have to be mindful of my thoughts and my reaction after encountering this. Now, I’m not saying we should be super sensitive to everything that happens to us during the work day. I’m more saying, at least for me, I try to be aware of how I react internally to stress. I don’t blame myself or others for what is happening even though I want to. I just sit there, feel uncomfortable and work on choosing not to react in unproductive ways. Using the incidents as fuel to be a great communicator and to also know when to take a step back from being sucked in. Don’t be the absorber. Go take care of yourself and let others take care of themselves. And when I’m not feeling good. I look in the mirror and say some positive affirmations to myself… no matter how silly it can feel sometimes. I make it a priority to take care of myself. To say kind words to myself and to encourage myself. That way I don’t have to depend on getting that from external places like work. I can just enjoy work for the best it has to offer and let go of the rest! 🙂